This past week I had someone tell me that I need to bulk up. The more I reflected on that comment, the more I felt infuriated. I think it’s ridiculous how much pressure is put on women to look a certain way. If I look at BMI charts, my weight is in the healthy range.
My sister Amy is about the same height as me. She is also in the healthy range on BMI charts based on her height. She weighs about 10 lbs. more than me right now and she considers herself overweight. How is it that just a 10 lb. difference can make people comment to me about how I am too skinny and make my sister feel like she should lose weight?
It’s no wonder that women have all sorts of body image issues. Here we are, 2 individuals in the healthy weight range who are made to feel like we are either underweight or overweight. Is there such a thing as a “normal” weight or do all women feel like they fall into one of those 2 categories – skinny or fat?
How do we as a culture stop putting so much pressure on people to look a certain way and focus on making healthy life choices? Is social media to blame? In this instance, it was a face to face conversation that planted a seed of self-doubt about how I look. I regret not speaking up for myself and explaining that I feel like I am at a healthy weight for my body type. Instead, I just shrugged and smiled. I want to learn the appropriate way to navigate these uncomfortable encounters and learn how to stand up for myself and my loved ones. I am getting better but I still have a long way to go.